Jamie Rodemeyer, a boy of fourteen just starting high school in Buffalo, New York has taken his own life because he could no longer bear being harassed for being gay. A lot has been said about and against the bullying that drove him to his death. But I do not blame the bullies. I blame those who encouraged him, directly and indirectly, to “come out” to the other kids in his school. And I blame the great lie that some are gay and some are straight.
The fact is that all boys are naturally gay. All boys like to be friends with handsome boys. All boys would like to walk with their arms around the waist or the shoulders of their friend, all boys would like to go camping with other boys and sleep in each other’s arms, all boys would like to walk hand in hand with their pals. All boys love, and are in love with their friends, and all boys would love to fool around with their friends and do circle jerks and see who could shoot the farthest, and jerk each other off. All boys would like that stuff because they are boys and that’s what boys do. Normal boys, that is, in normal societies.
But we put our males who love other males in a ghetto, and we give them special names, and special rituals. like “coming out,” which is really nothing more than speaking the truth to a bunch of liars. The boy who admits to feelings of love for other guys is brave and honest. How else can all the others, who are neither brave or honest, react to him except by making a scapegoat out of him for all their unspoken fears and desires. So what person in their right mind would encourage a child to step into this storm of madness and deception and face it alone? It is hard enough for an adult supported by other adults to enter into this endless battle with fixed ideas and unexamined beliefs. But a child??? And we look down on societies that practiced human sacrifice? By what rights?